When I stopped I had no social life…when I started again…?
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I stopped smoking pot and doing occasional illegal drugs for 11 months. I just started again as a way of coping with depression, but I knew it wouldn’t hurt my social life either. I haven’t drank for a year now… I think 13 months actually. I don’t know if I want to start. I miss my social life, and I turned down so many social events in the last year because I didn’t want to be tempted by drugs and alcohol. I stopped so that I could improve my depression, anxiety, whatever else, but I am as depressed I think in that year as I was when I was drinking and smoking pot. I just don’t know what else to do with my friends anymore, really. I miss the old days so much when we all knew how to have fun without drugs and alcohol. But, of course I am in my last year of high school and its all people want to do, with parties and everything. Its so casual for them, smoking a joint or drinking, and it was such a big deal to me. I just want to be able to be happy… or to be casual and chill out and smoke a joint. I don’t know if it will screw me up more in the long term…I don’t want to go the alcohol route as its a depressant, but I am so incredibly sad I was almost put in a mental hospital for a med change to find an anti depressant that worked because I’ve been on two that made me way worse than I’d ever been naturally and suicidal. Anyway… what are some things I can do with my friends in our last year of high school that will build memories and actually be fun without substances? And what should I do about the substance issue personally? Thank you very much for your help and reading my rambling.
Yes, that’s what I was saying…. drinking is a depressant and therefore a bad idea… and I have been on anti depressants, an SSRI and an an SNRI, which would be Effexor…which made me crazy, sadly. I am in therapy, have useless coping mechanisms and have a psychologist and psychiatrist. Though, thanks for trying.
Hmm depression fixed with a depressant. Seem a little backwards to you? Dont use alcohol for and anti-depressant. Use medications that are prescribed by a doctor. An SSRI would be a good start, dont know if you were on an ssri before, but you can also try the new generation effexor and abilify too. Therapy would be the best for you though. Sounds like you need some coping mechanisms to get over the feelings of loss. (albeit loss of sociallity)
Let it be known. The "old days" are just that.. the old days. These are the new days and you cant relive your past, even if you did get back into that same social circle of getting blasted every night, it wont seem the same to you because you are depressed.
Go see a therapist/ psychiatrist and get something that will work for you before your depression worsens, and NOTHING makes you happy.
September 28th, 2009 at 9:24 am
you need to remember how to have fun without being under the influence of anything. hanging around with the same people that you used to get high with is not good for you. someone who is pre-disposed to using drugs and alcohol to make them feel better is playing a dangerous game by just trying them once in a while. It will actually make your depression worse to use illegal substances. Get treatment for your depression including counseling. Your senior year is going by, try and enjoy it .
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September 28th, 2009 at 10:05 am
if you don’t want to do drugs or drink, DON’T
if you have good friends they’ll understand and won’t pressure you.
i’ve had friends who would go to parties and didn’t do anything but still had a good time. especially if you think these drugs are the source of your depression.
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September 28th, 2009 at 10:12 am
Well, this explains why I’m socially anxious stilla t 31, and never really wanted many friends!
I dropped mine, and didn’t know how to find clean ones.
But find clean ones.
I know a couple of addicts and former addicts, and if you pay attention to the many rreality TV shows you know ht theme- it’s not giving up the substance that’s so hard, it’s getting away from the people you used to do them with that is so hard.
Seriously, this is your year.
This is time to volunteer somewhere,
get out among adults, and say,
"Screw childhood!"
Screw getting high because you have no better purpose.
Doing meaningful things can be more fun and more rewarding than hanging out, going to parties, and so-called "cool" stuff.
Be a Big Sister to some little kid who needs one!
Do something for others, somethign constructive.
Join those totally uncool clubs that do stuff to make the world a better place.
Trust me, colleges will like it,
a good, clean man will like it,
your future children will liek it and build character from it.
You just need new friends, and new things to do!
Check out Habitat for Humanity.
See if you can start a school supply donation program, starting now, so that’s it’s ready for September.
Maybe they’ll name it after you, their Graduating Senior, who put it together.
Visit older people at a nursing home, or one of those developments.
See what you can learn about life before you get out there on your own.
And find other teens who do the same thing, even it’s five towns away.
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September 28th, 2009 at 10:27 am
Hmm depression fixed with a depressant. Seem a little backwards to you? Dont use alcohol for and anti-depressant. Use medications that are prescribed by a doctor. An SSRI would be a good start, dont know if you were on an ssri before, but you can also try the new generation effexor and abilify too. Therapy would be the best for you though. Sounds like you need some coping mechanisms to get over the feelings of loss. (albeit loss of sociallity)
Let it be known. The "old days" are just that.. the old days. These are the new days and you cant relive your past, even if you did get back into that same social circle of getting blasted every night, it wont seem the same to you because you are depressed.
Go see a therapist/ psychiatrist and get something that will work for you before your depression worsens, and NOTHING makes you happy.
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September 28th, 2009 at 11:01 am
Claire first of all "being happy" is an immature notice. It is something you have to work to have. Sure drugs are the quick fix, but bottom line is Illegal if for no other reason. You can have a social life without using drugs and alcohol. Have you tried to improve your social life without the use of substances-illegal or alcohol. My grand daughter is in her last year and does not use. This past 30 days she has lost 2friends to "partying" . You maybe on to a good lead when you say you may need a medication change. Many people first diagnosed as depressed are later re-diagnosed as Bi-Polar which has a whole different set of medications. I really can identify with what you are saying. I used for years and have now been clean for 28 yrs. It was not easy but it has gotten easier. I have completed a degree (after dropping out of school in 11th grade) have had a great productive career and have an awesome family. Please feel free to read my profile if you would like to. God Bless Reggie
It sounds as if you have a lot of issues going on and really need to get some help or at the very least talk about some of these issues that you have rushing at you.
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